The Decline of the American Male

If we study the average number of males and females in college today, it may be an indicator of what kind of parenting boys are given.  The proportion of males and females in college classes has changed over the years.  In the 1970s the proportion was approximately even.  Fifty percent of college students were male and 50% were female.

However, since then that proportion has gradually changed.  By the 1980s, the proportion was 45% male to 55% female.  By the 1990s the proportion was about 40% male to 60% female.   And by 2020, the proportion had risen to about about 35% male to 65% female–this according to Forbes.  If this trend continues at the same rate, by the year 2050, there will be very few males in college.

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Do Not Admire Kobe Bryant

Almost as soon as the news came out about Kobe Bryant’s death in a helicopter crash on a California mountain, the testimonies and odes to his greatness as a basketball player and as a man began to appear.

He is the only NBA player to have a 20-year career with one team. His raw statistics were outstanding: Five championships, two Finals MVPs, one regular season MVP, third on the all-time career scoring list, 15 All-NBA team selections, 18 All-Star selections, and four-time scoring champion.

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U.S. Soccer Women are Paid More

The United States women’s soccer team won the World Cup again in 2019. This was their fourth championship out of the eight that have been played. The US team has never placed lower than third in any World Cup, and are by far the most successful women’s soccer team in the brief history of women’s soccer. Immediately after winning the 2019 World Cup, players, fans and even Congress were calling for the pay of the women’s team to be equal to the pay of US men. (1)

By now feminists have apparently trained almost everybody to focus on the so-called pay gap. People don’t focus on the wonderful skills or the grand achievements of US women’s soccer. They don’t focus on the records. They don’t focus on the heart and determination of the players. And Congress, which could have its eye on the many important issues that plague us, such as poverty, global warming or nuclear war, has instead put the pay gap in the priority position. People have now developed a reflex response to the question of a pay gap for women whenever it arises, without ever bothering check the facts.

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Pet Therapy and It’s Benefits

One of my clients had long been complaining about her husband. Her husband was not physically affectionate. He was a workaholic who drudged away twelve hours a day and paid little attention to her when he finally came home. This made her feel lonely and depressed. She remembered having a cat when she was a child, and decided to purchase a kitty. She ended up liking her kitty so much that she bought two.

She almost immediately felt better. During her therapy sessions she was smiling and when I asked her why, she replied, “My cats put me in a good mood. They are with me all day and follow me everywhere. If I sit on the couch to watch TV they lie there with me. At night they sleep in my bed. They have long hair and when I pet them they are so smooth and silky and it relaxes me to pet them.” She was enjoying what has come to be called pet therapy.

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Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity

For six decades women have been telling men what they are. At the beginning of the second wave, in the late 1960s, they began calling men sexists. Later they added misogynists and male chauvinists. These terms meant that men were prejudiced against women, hated women and were conceited about their maleness. Feminist writing was drenched with these three epithets and they took men by surprise.

At first men tried laugh these names off. This initial wave of fierce warriors seemed to come out of nowhere, and they were suddenly shouting down men in public meetings, lectures, parks, on television and practically everywhere they gathered. Soon men could no longer laugh off the words or the feminists who said the words.

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What Kind of Woman Do Men Kill?

Mollie Tibbett was a young college student who was murdered on July 2018. She was only twenty when she was allegedly shot down by Christhian Bahena Rivera. She was a young woman at her prime of beauty. She was a sweet person who loved being alive and was happy with herself and had everything to live for.

Reading about her murder and seeing her picture all over the internet got me to thinking. Was Tibbett an example of the type of woman that disturbed males are prone to killing? As I researched this question, I was able to settle on several traits that seem to fit the profile of the typical target of the typical killer of women.

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Constructive and Destructive Dialogue

Most health professionals understand the difference between constructive and destructive communication. Constructive communication fosters healthy relationships, destructive communication fosters unhealthy relationships.

Unfortunately, it seems that most people today use destructive communication. This is evident in working with couples in couple’s therapy. Couples usually come to sessions and begin communicating in their standard way, which is in a destructive way. They blame each other for the problems in their relationship, accuse each other, yell at each other, guilt-trip each other and berate each other.

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7,800 Scout Leaders Accused of Abuse

Picture1A law firm claims to have found evidence of more than 7,800 child sex abusers serving as leaders of the Boy Scouts of America. It says the Boy Scout organization has a ‘perversion file’ that lists Boy Scout leaders who have been accused of sexual abuse.

These claims were made by the law firm of Greg Gianforcaro and Jeff Anderson & Associates in a press conference that was recently livestreamed on; the press conference included several sex abuse survivors who shared their stories. The firm is planning large-scale law suits on behalf of victims against the Boy Scouts of America.

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Some Blacks Don’t Want Racism to End

“Black Lives do not matter to most black people. Only the lives that make the national news matter to them. Only the lives that are taken at the hands of cops or white people matter. The other thousands of lives lost, the other black souls that I, along with every cop, have seen taken at the hands of other blacks, do not matter,” noted a black police office named Jay Stalien recently in a Facebook post that went viral.

Booker T. Washington, the famous black orator,  observed during his day, “There is a class of colored people who make a business of keeping the troubles, the wrongs and the hardships of the Negro race before the public. Having learned that they are able to make a living out of their troubles, they have grown into the settled habit of advertising their wrongs –partly because they want sympathy and partly because it pays. Some of these people do not want the Negro to lose his grievances, because they do not want to lose their jobs.”

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Liberalism and Radical Liberalism

Liberals address people with respect, no matter what their ideas are.                                     Radical Liberals call people with “wrong ideas” names like “sexist” and “racist.”

Liberals  discuss things.                                         Radical Liberals demand everybody think the way they think, or else.

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